The LOVE revolution

I wrote this back in 2023

LOVE IS THE ANSWER

How often do we miss each other. Not see the love in each other. Say things/ not say things do things/ not do things that create disconnection.

In my Hidden in Plain Sight class last week I was asked how do we look with soft eyes when we are stressed.

I stopped and thought about it before I answered. So many of my own disconnections in life were because either I or the other person wasn’t regulated. Stress and our nervous system has so much to answer for. That for whatever reason we never found our way back to love. And that hurts when you forget to see another from love

Then I thought back to why I decided to go on this Pikler journey. Why decide to study for so many years.

For me it comes down to one quote I heard from Jutka Kelemen.

“Everyone has love in their heart. Just some people need the steps to get there.”

I wanted to know those steps.

I thought about what this might mean from a self-Reg perspective.

How easy it is to blame the child
Our work colleague
Our partner
Our friend

Rather than consider that stress or not knowing another way might be at play. To walk in to vulnerability and hear or see another’s journey. We are all weaving together.

For me looking with soft eyes is about changing my perspective even when I’m stressed. And I don’t always get it right. My disasters are where I let stress get the better of me.

Working at believing the good in everyone big or small.

Working at changing my own mindset and attitude, so that I can once again see them from love.

This sounds way to easy. But I’m curious how easy is it for you to stop and pause to see the good in another.

How often we rush in with our own fear and stress.

How easy is it to truly listen to understand and accept something that might be 180 degrees different to our own understanding.

To love unconditionally.

I saw this photo today and it reminded me of Pennie, at Dance 2 she talked about creating a revolution in your own backyard.

I looked at that differently today. Maybe just maybe our own backyard is within our own bodies.

Making our own changes of perspective

Softening our own bodies, eyes and hearts first.

Not changing the world but changing us. One beating heart at a time, in this revolution to see from love.

Maybe reach out to another today that you have seen harshly and ask them if they are ok. Maybe your reaching out and supporting them will mean the world to them.

Change your own perspective
Change your own heart
And soften those eyes to love.

Because love is ALWAYS the answer

Mauri Aroha (everything from love)
Donna